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How to evict young adult?
What legal steps are needed to get an unruly 20 year old son out of house?
Have tried everything to get things to work out -- but I can not accept teh constant abuse any longer - especially with an unwell wife .
I have given ultimatum that he can think what he likes but he has to show at least some respect and be semi-polite -- or move oout -- I was told very forcibly where to get off..... and he isn't moving anywhere........
He has dropped out of college and I have always done best by giving lifts when I could and also he had use of a car -- which has been withdrawn due to the awful behaviour. (I ahve always followed the ideal of rewarding good behaviour and it is only in teh last 3 or 4 years things have gone bad - unfortunately he is in wityh afriends who are from wealthy families who buy their kids fancy cars and gadgets and don't expect their offspring to help with chores -- Alas we are not in that category. And even if we were -- I would still expect basic help with some household chores or even just basic politeness without swearing constantly and being nasty and aggressive
Anyway -- what can I do within a legal framework-- I was thinking of a notaires letter stating clearly that he behaves in a manner acceptable or he moves out -- but a process has to be started with clear action that can be tacken if this carries on.
(In Wallonia)
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Phone CHS. Ask them.
He might move out himself if he realises he'll get money from the CPAS if he's been ejected due to a family disagreement, but check your facts first.
Very sorry for you.
I don't know the answer but I can make some suggestions.
Firstly I think that the parents have a responsibility to support children in Belgium until they are at least 21 and have completed their education.
Secondly I suspect that only natural parents will have the right to take such action as you suggest; if you are the step-father then his mother will have to take action.
I would start, as you seem to have considered, with a visit to a notaris/notaire. It should be free if all they do is advise you of the legal situation - you will only have to pay if you want them to take action on your behalf.
Good luck
Kassiestamper, unfortunately you are incorrect.
Parents do not have to support adult children who are not in higher education, they do not have legal responsibility for them.
Have you tried seeking advice from your commune's CPAS? Certainly in our commune the CPAS is constantly making the point that they provide a wide range of help and advice, not just financial assistance.
Even if they can't offer help themselves, they should be able to suggest the most appropriate organisation to contact.
@shortof
I specifically said 'I think that............' because I realise that the law may have changed recently but, when my wife was divorcing her ex, she was required to help with support for their 20 year old twins who remained nominally with their father. And that despite the fact that they were both in full-time employment.
It is quite feasible for a court judge to make a parent pay for 20 year old adult children. Sadly some parents think that support stops as soon as they leave their children.
It is not even the case that you MUST support adult children in higher education here, it's just an expectation, most court judges would support that notion, the court judge who condemned my husband certainly did, but I was surprised to discover it is only a notion and expectation, I had thought it was a legal obligation. This notion stops at age 25.
I agree with BECASSE that the CPAS in your local Commune should be able to help you or re-direct you.
