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Plans to quit Brussels and to live elsewhere
Hi all,
No do not go rushing to judge please but i am planning to quit Brussels and what I need is to understand what is required of me regarding my kids from a previous relationship.
Now I clearly understnad I have commitments, etc but basically things rae not working out for mle here and I want to go on to somewhere new.
I have every intention to maintain contact and see my children periodically but here the situation with their mother i can no longer torelate.
Any family lawyer will tell me i know BUT it is just the basic outline so to speak?
I know this sounds selfish - again do not rush to judge !
Thanks !
Where is "elsewhere"? Genval? Gent? Geneva?
Number and age of kids + your legal custody deal?
Is you ex using the kids to get to you?
Wow very hard not to judge. Where are your kids? I LL take them.
Why are you asking here?
Go seek legal advice.
It's clear from your many posts on this issue that you have some serious problems.
I'm not being judgmental, but personally I would suggest that rather than constantly posting here for legal and other advice (that in any case you appear to just ignore), you consider instead getting some counseling for yourself.
You need to find a way to manage your life and your interactions with your children and their mother. A good counselor will be able to help you.
Please stop posting here as you ignore all the advice you have been given. Contact a lawyer, or try a notary. Contact a counsellor for yourself.
If you pay a good amount every month to the mother, you will be fulfilling your main financial and, more importantly, moral obligation and she is more likely to let you see them.
It's not hard not to judge folks - you just have to imagine yourself in a similar position - stuck in a job you hate in a country that doesn't work for you with a screwed up relationship and a choice between sorting your life out and seeing your kids. That could have been many ex-pats I know.
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There are options, however if this 'ere Wing Commander F***tard doesn't answer some really basic questions, then you really have to wonder if there's any point in vomiting out advice which is nigh on useless without knowing a little bit about the facts.
In this situation, I would look after my kids 50% of the time as happens in most situations in Belgium, accept that 50%, pay the children maintenance if the other parent has a lower income, kids receive maintenance from their other parent if you have a lower income. If the other parent is refusing to allow you to have 50% care, then it will inevitably mean you will have to take legal action. Just paying maintenance certainly does not fulfill your moral obligation, looking after your children hopefully will.
